The beautiful reality of swinging

I find it mildly interesting to read the various "experiences" and more probably the fantasies of the contributors to this web site. I speak perhaps differently to many others, as a person who has actually "been there and done that". I hope that by revealing my personal experiences over the last 10 years, I can help others that find themselves in the same state of mind that prompted myself and my beautiful wife to stretch, test and expand our relationship through a more open relationship.

What actually might drive us to the idea of denying our vowed monogamous relationships and stepping onto the cliff edge of immoral adventures?

I can say that in my case it was initially a simple desire to meet other people who might be churning over the same thoughts that were starting to force their way through to the forefront of my thinking.

Bluntly, I started to ask myself - was there something out there that would blow me away - an experience that would transcend above my extreme expectations - perhaps something that provide me with exclusive edge to my life - similar to how I felt after making love for the first time and walking down an early morning high street with an ear-to-ear smile halving my face.

I anguished over what I thought was the selfish nature of my deliberations. Ultimately I opened up to my partner. I can't forget how I split out my thoughts to her as we lay against a warm sand dune on an early spring morning.

She was quiet at first, perhaps reflecting over the idea that she was not satisfying me and that this was just an excuse for me to find sexual adventure elsewhere. I sat there looking for her reaction. She surprised me by agreeing to accompany me wherever we might go down this path - up to this point I was thinking that it might be a completely solo journey.

We have been together for half our lives. Our relationship and intimacy is more powerful than any other couple we have ever met (it holds us in remarkable stead, as you might find out as our story unfolds later).

We were in our mid 40's with teenage kids at home. We loved sexual contact and understood what turns each other on (or so we thought).

How would we progress from here? I was keen to open up communication channels with other people, but nervous as to revealing myself.

We started off .........