BDSM - pain or pleasure?

[johnmassive]

I've never tried BDSM in my life, so i have a serious question for experienced guys out there... is this stuff for real? I mean - how much pain we are talking about? does it really hurts? so tell me more about the subject of the question...

[pooley]

the secret of success lies in the ability to use your pain and pleasure... mm.. if you can control them separately and together, you will able to gain total control of your pleasure... and pain means nothing in comparison with it...

[kalissa]

spank me!!!! LOL :lol:

[donnyd]

Kalissa, let's meet someday and spank each other! :wink:

Seriously, John, what do you mean "how much pain"? That depends on the person. I like hard spankings, whippings, hot wax, etc... sometimes I had bruises... so how much is too much? That also depends on the person.

As for me, I don’t like sharp pain at all. Things like slapping and spanking don’t work for me.. I don't understand the existence of BDSM in general

mandigos, can't agree more! you're totally right! I also can't stand pain.

It depends on who my partner is and what sexual activities he prefers. I enjoy being whipped or slapped, but I don't like pain in a non-sexual context...

I would like to be physically punished... but I never tried it. just want to meet a right person who knows how to start

[crazylovers]

In my point of view BDSM it is not hurtful. One of its key principals is to be Safe, Sane and Consensual. So education on the types of BDSM play is very important. Some activities may take much time to learn to do in a safe manner. I know that there are all kind of educational seminars put on by the BDSM community so that players can learn the safe way to practice various techniques. But of course there are always few folks that don’t do the research and some people have been harmed because of it.

Real pain differs from BDSM. When my mistress hurts me, it hurts in a good way. It's the frame of mind that makes it what it is... hard to explain to others...